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Domestic Violence

You can feel so vulnerable during domestic violence situations. Here are some protection tips for you at home while you are still with your abuser, in your car, and with your cell phone. I am also including tips regarding your finances, belongings, and reputation to help you feel more in control.

Abuser's want total control over you. If they can't have you, they may try to destroy you in every way possible, or take your life. These protection tips are to help you get through this difficult season in your life, while you prepare to move on to a healthy future.

Please remember that this is not the time to demand respect, or your rights. That is not a language abuser's speak. Your goal is to get you, and your kids out safely. So while you keep your abuser happy, quietly prepare, plan ahead and be safe.

At Home

Know your abuser's triggers, the things that set off a domestic violence situation. You may be able to recognize the triggers as you read through your journal of abuse. Some triggers can be caused by hunger, not enough rest, stress, drinking... You have to figure out what it is that sets your abuser off.

The best defense is a good offense. Here are some more protection tips while surviving domestic violence:

  • When you know what sets off your abuser, you can plan ahead to avoid the triggers that set off domestic violence situations as much as possible.
  • Have food ready when your abuser arrives home.
  • Make your environment as relaxing as possible when your abuser is tired.
  • Don't talk about serious things when you know your abuser is stressed.
  • If your abuser drinks, make sure you don't get drunk. You need to be able to think clearly at all times.
  • If your abuser gets upset at home, send the kids outside, or to a room that they can escape from - through a window, if needed.
  • Stay in an open area of the house where you won't get cornered.
  • Stay away from the kitchen, bedroom, or any other part of the house where there might be weapons.
  • Stay calm, and don't let your emotions take control. You need to be mentally in control and defuse the situation.
  • Your abuser wants control. Let your abuser feel they have control by offering to take care of what has upset them.

Remind yourself that this is a temporary situation.

Protection Tips in the car

Domestic violence situations don't just happen in the house. These situations can happen in a vehicle just as easily. A vehicle can be used as a weapon, even with all parties on board . If your abuser is behind the wheel, this is not the time to talk about serious issues, or things that are upsetting you. Keep travel time fun and relaxing. If your abuser goes into a rage while in control of your vehicle, it could be deadly. Drive whenever possible.

Your Belongings

Things can be replaced, or retrieved with a police escort later... you are irreplaceable!! Be safe.

If it isn't noticeable and you can safely do it, move your most precious items out of reach and replace them with things your abuser likes, or things that you don't care as much about. If you can move your most precious items out of the house without drawing attention, that is even better.

Your Reputation

Overall, time will heal the negative words said about you. Time won't heal the legal damage done if you are arrested and end up with a criminal record. Do your best to live above reproach... meaning try not to do anything that anyone could accuse you of. You need to think about your future and the future of your kids.

Only fight back if your life depends on it. You have several options for self defense. Fighting back in an intimate relationship should be a very last resort, as it will immediately raise the level of violence directed at you throughout the length of the 

Crime Prevention

Simple Crime Prevention:

Anyone can be a target of even the simplest of crimes. Here are some tips to keep you safe in your everyday life:

-Always be aware of your surroundings and who is around you. Take time to observe what people are wearing and what they look like in case you have to describe it later to someone. 
-Do not leave any items in your car that may be seen as valuable to someone else. Do not give thieves the opportunity. Put valuables in the trunk or cover them so they are not visible from the outside. 
-Do not leave packages on your door step or allow mail to pile up at your door. It is a sign that you are not home or that you do not care for your mail. 
-Leave a light on throughout the night inside or outside your house to tell burglars you’re at home. 
-When attacked, strike back by hitting a vulnerable spot or create a distraction to flee quickly.
-Do not fight back for your possessions if the thief is armed.
-Be cautious of strangers who want to use your phone.
-Check the floor and backseat of your car before getting in.
-Be defensive when driving. Park in well lit areas and gather all of your items before getting out. 
-When using public transportation, wait in well lit areas, stand near other people, and use a schedule that reduces your wait time. But above all, be aware of strangers. 
-While at home, do not answer the door for anyone that puts you in an uncomfortable situation.
-Keep doors and windows locked, install deadbolts on exterior doors, and have a lock on your bedroom door. 

These simple things can keep you a lot safer and promote others to be safe as well.

Internet and Website Safety Tips

Though there have been many scares about what can happen to children or teenagers on the internet, adults should be safe as well. There is no limit to the amount of risk adults come in contact with such as sexual predators, criminals who are seeking out your personal information on social networking sites, buying habits, frequently used sites, and many others.

Here are some tips to help prevent you from being a target:

  • Do not share things such as email addresses, usernames and passwords.
  • Do not use usernames or passwords that include your name, birthdate, important numbers, or where you live.
  • Keep your location safe. Never share where you live or where you are with anyone. It is important to keep the locations of others safe as well.
  • Do not share photos of you or your family members.
  • Do not use numbers that are personally identifiable such as your driver’s license number, wedding date, VIN numbers, locker combination, social security number, or any other type of number that can help predators identify you.

These preventions can be applied to all aspects of web use for communicating online, socializing, sharing images, gaming, purchasing products, identity theft, fraud, and others.

For Kids:

  • Never give out personal information such as where you live, your name, and your phone number when in a chat room.
  • Never send a picture of yourself without a parent’s permission.
  • Do not continue speaking with a person that has made you feel scared or uncomfortable. Tell a parent if this happens.
  • Without your parent's permission, don’t meet someone or have them visit you.
  • Do not trust anyone, they could be lying to you.
  • To be safe, keep the computer in a room used often by family members.
  • Speak out when you are being bullied. Telling an adult is not a sign of weakness. Tell a trusted adult if you are being bullied.

Gone But Not Forgotten ...

December 1st is #GivingTuesday, a day dedicated to giving back.  This is the time of year when we think about all that we are thankful for this holiday season.  We are thankful for each and every person out there backing the Frisco POA.

Throughout the year we work hard to give back to our local community in many ways. To view the organizations we sponsor and how we give back visit our "Charities We Support" page.   If you would like to show your support, please visit the donate section of our website.  #GivingTuesday

FPOA Proudly Supports C.O.P.S. Kids Camp!

C.O.P.S. Kids Camp provides family interaction, camp activities, grief counseling, relaxation and lots of old-fashioned fun! 

This years dates are July 27th- August 2nd, 2015.

The camp is planned for surviving children and their parent/guardian, ages 6-14, of law enforcement officers who died in the line of duty.  The camp is located in East Troy, Wisconsin, 45 minutes outside of Milwaukee at the Salvation Army Lake Camp. 

To learn more visit the C.O.P.S. , Concerns of Police Survivors website http://nationalcops.org

#GivingTuesday

December 1st is #GivingTuesday, a day dedicated to giving back.  This is the time of year when we think about all that we are thankful for this holiday season.  We are thankful for each and every person out there backing the Frisco POA.

Throughout the year we work hard to give back to our local community in many ways. To view the organizations we sponsor and how we give back visit our "Charities We Support" page.   If you would like to show your support, please visit the donate section of our website.  #GivingTuesday
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